I Didn’t Understand Pornography—Until I Did

There's a moment, maybe you remember yours, when music stops being background noise and starts feeling like a mirror. It doesn't happen with the songs that fill school dances or the albums your older cousin swears changed his life. It happens quietly, almost inconveniently. A record finds you, or you find it, and instead of offering escape, it provides exposure. You don't nod along. You pause. You don't feel bigger. You feel seen. Not triumphantly. Uneasily. That's when music becomes something else entirely. It doesn't just fill silence; it replaces it with something heavier. Before you hear your first "real" album, the kind that doesn't just take up space but unsettles it, you think music has a job: to excite, to soothe, maybe to make you feel cool. At fourteen, that was my world. Music blasted from passing cars, rattled locker doors, and soundtracked weekends. It was adrenaline and swagger, drums to bang your head to, lyrics to scribble in notebo...